Life with a narcissist is daunting, harrowing, and unpredictable. He is self-absorbed, self-sufficient, and self-serving. He is haughty, arrogant, and oblivious to your wishes, desires, dreams, and goals. He is rude and envious toward others. He has terrible behavior and even worse manners. He is untrustworthy and incapable of any true and consistent feelings worthy of anyone else's attention.
Life with a narcissist is all-consuming, isolated, and draining. He is lacking any adult skills or abilities to meet another person's needs, and so he misbehaves and acts out in order to take your attention away from his all-consuming deficits. He is truly only half of a man - and maybe that is generous. He often falls through on his responsibilities to you, up to and including simply meeting your sexual needs.
Why do women run to these men in droves? What causes them to drop at the feet of narcissists, seemingly begging for their punishment and negative behaviors?
There are deficits that are often present in the woman who seeks out or inadvertently falls prey to a petty narcissist. The narcissist seeks out only specific types of women, and he turns a blind eye to others. There are only certain types of women who have a deficit or an over-interest in dating emotionally immature men such as narcissists. We seek to define these in order to bring a broader knowledge to those who suffer at the hands of narcissists and why narcissists seek out these types for their amusement.
If someone tells you a lie enough times, it will eventually be accepted as the truth. You will feel belittled and small, so the other person can feel superior and tall. Are you susceptible to falling prey to a narcissist and vulnerable to becoming victimized by them? Which category type do you fall under?
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1. Going “Grey Rock”
The first and most obvious tactic against the manipulative and malignant narcissist is to go “grey rock.” What is “gey rock” you ask? Well, I am here to tell you… “Grey rock” is much like ‘playing possum’ or ‘playing dead’ with the narcissist. When you cannot avoid a narcissist try this tactic if the narcissists insist on using you as their plaything.
Go no contact whatsoever. Change your phone number, email, block them on social media, and if it comes down to it move to another residence. You want to become a grey rock. Become dull and boring so you are passed by like you would an old atypical rock. Narcissist’s will not get anything out of a relationship that gives them no stimulation. He cannot exploit you to get resources, nor are you giving him enough attention to make him feel popular and relevant.
The narcissist loves to be feared or loathed, but he cannot tolerate being ignored. How dare you not recognize his specialness and uniqueness! In a capitalist society, the narcissist screams loud and obnoxiously “everyone hear me roar”.
If you give him no attention, he is a great big nothing in your world; he doesn’t exist. This is painful to the altruistic and extroverted narcissist who relies on networking to advance himself because he doesn’t have the skills to wow the world and show them he is worthy of paying attention to.
The goal is to become emotionally unresponsive and disappear off the narcissist’s radar altogether. A narcissist relies on drama and wears many masks as they are the star in their own reality sitcom. If you become dull and boring, you will not be seen by the narcissist as someone that will play a role in their personal movie of life any longer.
